Grief.
It's something no one wishes to experience. Yet, it happens to everyone at one point or another in our lives. Actually, it doesn't happen just once. The older we get, grief will come knocking on our doors every once in a while because that is just how life works .While I've always tried to look on the bright side of life, July was truly a turbulent and depressing month for me.
You see, while still dealing with the shocking local news regarding mental health issues and trying my best to have an open discussion with the kids as we head into the exam period, my own world fell apart when I was informed that my beloved grandma was hospitalised and in a coma.
For the next two weeks, it was terribly dreadful that we couldn't visit her due to the pandemic restrictions. We had video calls with her almost every day to tell her we love her and gently urge her to wake up but I wanted to be by her side so, so badly. My spirits were lifted when my Mum told me she opened her eyes and we even heard her saying "Bye bye". Surely that is a good sign and she is getting better, right?
Alas, things deteriorated swiftly and by the end of that fortnight, she decided to leave this world. I can't go into details now without being a wreck because I just miss her so much and have so many regrets. For now, I am working on gathering her photos and making a video so that my kids will always remember her. I guess when I am ready, I will dedicate a post to her and pour my feelings out. But for now, I'm just not brave enough to do it yet. In this post of "Happiness is...", I've realised it's okay to sometimes be a little lost and a little sad.
同時也有1部Youtube影片,追蹤數超過2,210的網紅DJ Macky Suson,也在其Youtube影片中提到,"My advocacies would always be about mental health awareness. I'm creating and establishing Macky Academy for the future of our young talented Filipin...
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Be Who You Are, Not What Others Want You To Be!❤
Why are you single? When are you going to get married? When are you having kids? Why you don't have kids? Why is she/he divorced? What happened to them? Why are they like that? Why and why and why people like to ask these insensitive questions, being prejudice, stereotyping, speculates, gossips, and make inappropriate judgments.
How can you ask something that someone can't 100% control, just like death? Some things are unknown, it's like asking, when are you going to die? It's common sense. If you don't know this answer, means you won't know the exact why for such questions.
When someone is single by choice or it's not just the right time for them, let it be. So what if that person wants to be or will be single forever? It may be better for the person than being with the wrong partner for the rest of the person's life. You don't meddle with God's plan or even someone's choices. You can't force people to get into relationships, what's more marriage. If it is forced, how can a marriage be happy and whole? Love is a huge topic. Again it's not just about relationships and marriage.
People should not pretend to be stupid, play dumb, needy, spoiled, or fake just to attract/be with a life partner. Women and men should have their own intelligence, personality, independence, and truthfulness in life. We want to be real and genuine, and if someone wants us to be part of their life, it's better for them to know the real us from the get-go. Not presenting a false front.
A healthy relationship should be two individuals who love and care for each other, support, motivate, respect, be kind, honest, loyal, help, guide, communicate well, listen and give the very best to each other, by also being the best version of themselves. Not one person should be superior to the other or vice versa. If you feel forced and put yourself down for another person, you are probably in the wrong relationship.
Put aside status, education level, salary, or position in career, a partner and a healthy relationship should be side by side, be supportive, help each other, understand each other strengths and weaknesses, able to give and take/compromise, and open to learning from each other when it comes to marriage or any relationship.
A woman's or man's characteristics for example being soft or strong, and men prefer soft/more feminine women, and women who are less intelligent/educated than them, should not be generalized. Some men admire women who are intelligent/educated, strong, and independent and women have their preferences too. Different people are attracted to different traits. No one size fits all.
No one should pretend to be less than she/he is for the opposite partner to feel desirable or dominant. If a person desperately and constantly trying to boost their ego, be dominant or prove power especially in a relationship, this may lead to negative behavioral patterns and impacts such as emotional instability, harassment, abuse, bullying, verbal and physical violence, unhappiness, and depression.
We are all individuals in the end and have our differences. As a human being, one of the goals in life is trying to be better than we were yesterday. Trying to change ourselves for the sake of pleasing someone and pretending just to make someone feel happy or superior is not healthy and can jeopardize our own mental health and also the relationship in the long run.
If we want to change something, for example, I want to be more fitter, healthier, happier, smarter, financially independent, and so forth, it is for ourselves (without being selfish or self-absorbed). If we take care of ourselves first then we can take care of others better. Do for yourself and the motivation will be sustainable than doing for other people.
Respect and love yourself. Respect the people around you. Then we should not be degrading or intimidate anyone. This will make you a better person. We attract what we are.
Life is unique, so does human beings. Life itself is bigger than getting married, having kids, make tons of money, and so forth. This is the typical life cycles, stages and goals we all have learned in our life. The strong pressures in society dictate what is better and not just because that's what it is for the past generations have been. The pressure to fit in with society's standards and expectations is also there.
As a society and individual, let's understand deeper that not everyone will have the same life cycles and even life goals. There are things we can control and can't control. Not everything that is good for you is going to be good for other people. Having or not having something can be a blessing and sometimes only God knows why.
In life, some may walk their path of life and make choices completely different from us and that's perfectly fine. We all have our own unique journey and that makes us different, and we can use that differences to make life better for ourselves and the life of others.
Let this sink in.
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my look 🤍💀☠️ my energy 💖🌸🐣 lol
no i didn't comb my hair but i put on makeup and bomb ass clothes to go nowhere tho instead of hoodie so that's an improvement ✨ heck, i only look good when i need to take pictures or videos 😭just to remind you guys, that deciding to put on makeup and cute clothes during lockdown is part of self care, no u don't have to tell urself you have to be super productive, don't feel bad about not being productive, we are so embedded with the idea hustling, we often forget the importance of rest and self care. hustling is wonderful, but without self care, your work can't be efficient as well, so what's the point?
congratulate yourself for waking up today, for deciding to cook urself a healthy meal, for doing just minimal workout, for not replying that message during the weekends, for deciding to sleep 1 hr earlier than usual. you are doing the best you can for things you can control, mental health is important, take care of yourself, don't feel bad about what you feel because you think others are having it worse. different people struggle differently, but all of that made you stronger 🤍
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"My advocacies would always be about mental health awareness. I'm creating and establishing Macky Academy for the future of our young talented Filipinos kids and youths. And helping Filipino people, one person at a time."
Update: As of July 30, 2020, I have spent 190,000 Pesos and sent our fellowmen in the Philippines to help them get by. If you would like to donate to my advocacy please send me an email: hello@mackysuson.com
Your support and donation will help a lot of our fellowmen during this crisis. Sharing this video is also your support to everyone.
#MackyQuotes
Live to me is more spontaneous and I'm able to show my real feelings without editing it or worrying about commiting mistakes, any words at all. "
"Recording makes me feel I have to be perfect."
Yana Sy "I'm always thankful and happy that I'm back in the field and I'm always grateful about that one."
"It's not about passing. I'm able to do things that I'm supposed to do."
"I'm just happy,blessed,and grateful about it."
"I was focused on people giving pieces of advice and helping people on Facebook, appears it from prizes, gcash and load. I'm happy doing that. "
"I was really happy doing that sense I believe it became my therapy."
"I'm also grateful that I have my Macky Agents on my group, on my Facebook page because they are the one to make someone friend. "
"I thanking them and I was grateful. The help, support and love they show me even though they don't know me at all. "
"Things that happened to me in the past when I was young. Things that I think no one should feel it. "
"Things happen in the past are worthy in the past."
"Though I look back to the past sometimes, it doesn't necessarily that it contributed to my depressive episode that I have. "
"Im recovering very well and thanks God everything is really really well."
"I'm just thanking God for me giving me a chance to go back to field because that's the only thing that will solve my problem. "
"I'm just thanking God for me giving me a chance to go back to field because that's the only thing that will solve my problem. "
"I'm able to balance my life a lot easier now. My time management go a lot better."
"One of the things that I love to myself is I dont believe to myself but some just one.
"I believe that there is always in this everything like motivational speaking, dancing, and singing. "
"Grew up as a Filipino having nothing at all, I've just wanted to try everything what I could. "
"I've been doing all the things that I love in the past few years."
"Thanks God for my work and thanks God for the blessings that I've been receiving from him. "
"I know that I don't deserved it all that's why I'm sharing."
Be grateful, count your blessings."
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"Do what you love, sharing is happiness."
"Dancing is expression, express yourself."
"Happiness should be our priority."
"Happiness and recovery is still your main goal and priority."
"If I don't like things that I'm not comfortable with or I'm not happy with, I will make sure that I will not do it unless I will prioritize the things that will makes me happy."
"I will just follow what my guts are telling."
"Trust your instinct, science cannot explain it."
"I'm more rational in making decisions. I always counting it weighing things. "
"The process, and the consequences of the things that I will do."
"Making decisions is never gonna be easy. And I'm getting back on it."
"Im getting good on it again. I would say that those are the things I say. I am recovering well. "
"Trust but verify it."
"Trusting but verifying your clients especially when your client is overwhelmingly. Change a lot in just a short time. "
"Your will is stronger than any medications."
"I've change a lot in short time because my will to move on, my will to recover, and to fight are so strong. "
"I'm so strong that's the reason I recovered well."
"Great support system contributes to fast recovery."
The medications, and the prayers that I've got from my Macky Agents, from my friends and my family members, from everyone, and the support of God, and the love I felt from them. Those are the things that contributed me a lot to a fast recovery. "
Knowing and talking to people I don't know. And being able to interact with them and let them understand my situation, at the same time connecting to them, giving them pieces of advice. Knowing that there are people who reach out to me, who have problems not just financially but as well as depression, family problems, love problems, it makes me happy."
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